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Being a good kisser is not just good for getting a second (or third) date, but is part of what scores you a partner. If you’re a bad kisser, changes are you’re not going to hear from this person you like again.

Bleak? Definitely not because there are ways to be a better kisser and we have the goods. Plus, your kissing skills play a role in your overall relationship’s health. You might not think kissing is this huge thing, but it never stops being a cornerstone of happy intimate partnerships.

How to start a kiss

After you've received enthusiastic consent and you go to kiss someone, lean in slowly. Instead of immediately jamming your tongue down your partner’s throat, start with a kiss on the lips. If they pull back or freeze, stop. And if you're not sure if they'd like you to kiss them, you can always ask.

Top 10 Best Kissing Tips

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1.Freshen Up

It goes without saying that when you're inches from someone's face, no one wants to inhale whiffs of stale coffee or a mouthful of garlic and onion. Popping a mint or brushing your teeth shows you’ve put in some effort.

No one wants to kiss someone whose breath smells like a mix of that morning’s coffee and lunch sandwich. Even if you're kissing a long-term partner that you've kissed 1,000 times, try to avoid making them taste what you've eaten that day.

2.Make sure you’re prepared before the moment comes

We can’t always control when the mood for a kiss strikes, but a little preparation can go a long way.

If you know that kissing might be on the agenda, for example, you might want to skip the garlic bread and onions at dinner.

It also helps to:

-Make sure your lips aren’t dry or cracked. Regular lip scrubs, especially during the winter, can help you avoid chapped and peeling lips.

-Keep lip balm on hand for a pre-kiss touch-up.

-Rely on a breath mint or piece of gum to keep your mouth feeling (and tasting) fresh.

3.Time the Moment Right

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Follow the other person's body language cues to know when it's the right time to initiate a kiss. Don't insist on leaning in for a kiss if it doesn't feel right, or leave the other person waiting so long that they start questioning whether you're interested in them. When in doubt, ask!

4.Ask Permission

Sometimes, body language and glances and unspoken tension can all stack up to give you the confidence to lean in for the kiss, but if those things don't stack up or if they seem to but there's a weird X factor—like you're both feeling bubbly after a glass of champagne at a party or you just met and don't have an established flow of communication—it's also more than okay to get a very spoken, verbal go ahead. Consent is key, so it's always best to ask before leaning if you're not sure.

Movies and TV shows might make sudden, surprise kisses seem romantic, but it’s essential to have someone’s consent before you touch or kiss them.

The mood might seem just right, sure. You can’t know for sure whether someone actually wants to be kissed, though, unless you ask.

People often think asking for consent makes a situation awkward or stilted, but that doesn’t have to be the case at all.

Show affection in other ways

Maybe your partner wants to wait on kissing, or your lips have gone numb after an intense make-out session.

In either case, it never hurts to convey your interest and affection in less physical ways.

A few ideas to try:

Offer an honest compliment. “I love being around you. You always make me laugh, and I feel great just spending time together.”

Express your desire for a kiss in words. Time and place not quite right for a kiss? Build anticipation by telling them you can’t wait to kiss them later, or writing it down in a note.

Take a walk together. If they’re headed home, off to work, or out for a snack, you might offer to keep them company.

Find a place to rest your head. Maybe you want to keep touching, but you also want to pay attention to the movie. Leaning your head on their shoulder (if you’re shorter) or head (if you’re taller) allows you to maintain some contact without being totally distracted.

Hold hands. Handholding might seem a little tame once you’re ready to move on to kissing, but just think back to the first time you held hands. Remember that tingle when your fingers touched, the shiver when they rubbed their finger along your hand? Your hands can speak volumes about your feelings, too.

5.Pay Attention to Surroundings

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Whether it's candlelight, a tent under the stars, in the ocean, or in a sudden rain storm, exciting new surroundings make a kiss interesting. Because your eyes are closed most of the time during a kiss, you'll hear and even feel the things that are happening around you more clearly. You want to stay in the moment, but it's nice to take in what's around you so you can better appreciate this moment. Just be sure you aren't neglecting your kissing partner in the process.

How to be good at ear kisses

Along with neck kisses, some people love ear kisses. Try lightly kissing or even licking your partner’s earlobe. You can also try using your teeth. Some people love a light bite on their neck, ear, or lower lip.

6. Be Spontaneous

Kissing is all about the about the back-and-forth exchange, so feel free to loosen up and experiment with different styles of kissing. Try gently—key word, gently—tugging on his lower lip with your teeth during a kiss. Do the upside down Spiderman! Try using more tongue or transitioning sides during a kiss or gentle biting, so long as both of you are into it. Don't try to do something that doesn't feel right in the moment.

How to be good at forehead kisses

When incorporated at the right time, this move can be super-intimate and dreamy. The key here is eye contact. Look into your partner's eyes, then pull back and land a soft, lingering (but still brief) smooch on their forehead. You can round it out with more eye contact if it feels right.

7. Follow Each Other's Lead

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Good kissers will mirror each other's movements so that they're both on the same page. Take note of what your partner's doing and imitate it. Or, take the lead if you want to try something different. Feel out each other's impulses and kissing styles, and go from there.

How to be a good French kisser

Once you’ve started kissing, add some tongue. Begin by gently touching your tongue to your partner’s. “The tongue is a very strong muscle – it should only be served with finesse,” Andréa Demirjian, kissing expert and author of KISSING: Everything You Ever Wanted to Know About One of Life’s Sweetest Pleasures, previously told Refinery29. “Keep it supple and gentle.”

Though it’s not a universal rule, OKCupid data shows that 90% of men and 88% of women prefer long, slow kisses, while 8% of men and 11% of women prefer little, sweet kisses. So a long, slow, French kiss is a good bet.

8.Be gentle

Kissing doesn’t have to be aggressive to be passionate — i.e., you don’t have to go from zero to “The Bachelor” fantasy suites immediately. Kissing gently lets you crank up the intensity as you go.

Tilt your head as you softly lean in, kiss, come up for air, and lean in again. Like sex, kissing should create anticipation, rhythm, and buildup. If you’re not sure what pattern or rhythm to go with, try mirroring your partner. Pay attention to their pacing and the amount of pressure in their kisses.

9. Be present

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It’s not just about your lips. Kissing is a full-body experience, says Chavez. Use your body language — eye contact, placing a hand on your partner’s cheek — to create connection while you’re making out.

Chavez says it’s important to feel “emotionally present” while kissing. However, being too focused on your moves can make you self-conscious. Try to strike the right balance between mind and body.

10. Give Each Other Constructive Feedback

Give the other person positive, constructive feedback via your body language so that your partner feels good after a kiss. You don't want to hurt anyone's feelings, but if they're not the best kisser in the world, gently guide them in another direction by slowing down, pulling back, and demonstrating a different technique. Then, talk about it afterwards.

Tell them something positive, add in the constructive feedback, and then end with something positive. For instance, you can say: "I love when you kiss my neck. I like when you use a bit less pressure when we're making out. You're so hot." Works like a charm.

Kissing With French Styles

French kissing is a great way to have fun with a sexual partner that stimulates sensitive erogenous zones while providing mutual pleasure.

A French kiss (also called a tongue kiss, a deep kiss, or making out) is a kiss in which one or both partners use their tongues to stimulate each other’s mouths for mutual sexual pleasure. French kisses can be more stimulating than kisses without the tongue since the lips, tongue, and other parts of the mouth are powerful erogenous zones that contribute to sexual arousal.

How To Kiss In French Styles

Choose a comfortable setting. Since French kissing usually takes a little longer than a standard peck on the lips, you’ll want to be in a place where both you and your kissing partner feel comfortable and relaxed. A bedroom or private area is a great place to start a make-out session. Set the mood by lighting a few candles or playing romantic music.

Face your partner. Face your partner so that your eyes are on the same level, and make eye contact to show you feel connected to them. If it’s your first-time French kissing and you want to send a few signals that you’re in the mood, try briefly glancing at your partner’s lips and then back up to their eyes. If they return the flirty glance, smile, or start to lean in, they may be interested, too.

Lean in and tilt your head. Once you know that your partner is interested, lean in to press your lips to your partner’s, tilting your head, so your noses don’t bump together. You may both accidentally tilt in the same direction at first; if this happens, simply redirect your head so that you’re tilting in opposite directions.

Begin with your lips. While it may be tempting to start with a French kiss, building up to a deeper kiss can be incredibly sensual for both parties. Begin with a few closed-mouth, tongueless kisses. Press your lips to your partner’s, alternating between light brushes of your lips and more powerful kisses, then closed- and open-mouthed kisses. While you can leave your hands at your sides, adding a gentle caress can be enjoyable for the other party. With your partner’s consent, gently place your hands on their waist, back, or face as you kiss.

Initiate a French kiss. After a few tongueless kisses, begin lightly brushing your tongue along your partner’s lips. This move is a non-verbal way of asking permission to take the kiss further—if your partner extends their tongue in response, they are ready to begin French kissing. However, if your partner doesn’t extend their tongue, they may not be comfortable just yet, and you should continue with your tongueless kisses. If you receive the green light to deepen the kiss, part your lips and gently use your tongue to stimulate your partner’s lips and tongue. Run your tongue along their lips or slide your tongue along theirs. Take it slowly and gently, allowing the intensity to build as you match your partner’s energy and movements. If your partner likes hugging during kisses, use your hands to hold them close.

Finish. French kissing can be an enjoyable activity all on its own, without it progressing to anything further. If you and your partner don’t want to move on to more intimate activities, simply French kiss until you both feel satisfied. However, French kissing can also be a powerful part of foreplay. If you and your partner want to transition to sexual intercourse, you can move your hands to begin stimulating your partner’s body (especially the glutes, chest, or genitals).

Techniques and Tips for French Kissing

French kissing can be so much more than a simple open-mouthed kiss. Here are a few techniques you can try with your partner to take your French kissing to the next level:

Use your hands. While French kissing, use your hands to hold your partner and make them feel desired. Caress their lower back, upper back, chest, or neck with varying pressure levels to stimulate these erogenous zones. If you know your partner is comfortable, you can also caress their glutes (or breasts, if your partner has them). It’s important when using your hands that you pay attention to your partner’s comfort levels—especially if you’re on an early date or in a new relationship. Ask permission or check in with your partner before touching sensitive parts of their body.

Vary the pressure. Using the same kissing technique throughout a single French kissing session can leave you or your partner feeling uninspired or bored. To keep things fresh and exciting, try to vary the pressure of your French kisses—for instance, alternate between tracing your tongue along your partner’s lips and pressing hard against your partner while exploring more of their mouth with your tongue. By varying the pressure of your kisses, you’ll demonstrate different intensities of your desire—kiss them purposefully, and you’ll send powerful signals of desire; kiss them lightly and leave them wanting more.

Introduce your teeth. If you and your partner are comfortable, introducing gentle nibbling into French kissing can be a great way to increase the intensity. Take your partner’s upper or lower lip in your mouth and press lightly with your teeth. The difference in sensation—from the softness of your lips and tongue to the hard surface of your teeth—can draw even more pleasurable attention to the kiss.

Swirl your tongues. For a higher-contact French kiss, use the tip of your tongue and swirl it in circles around your partner’s tongue. Since the tip of the tongue contains many nerve endings, this motion can be incredibly stimulating.

Use suction. To raise the intensity, use your lips to create a gentle suction during the kiss. Take your partner’s bottom lip, upper lip, or tongue in your mouth and suck lightly. Suction can increase blood flow to the area and elevate pleasure, but be gentle—sucking or tugging too hard can cause unwanted pain.

Move away from their lips. French kissing doesn’t have to center the mouth—taking brief breaks from your partner’s mouth can increase their desire and stimulate other erogenous zones. During the French kiss, let your mouth wander away from your partner’s lips, kissing down their jawline, along their cheeks, or against their ear for added pleasure.


Make sure your breath is fresh. Bad breath can serve as a distraction when French kissing. Avoid pungent foods like onions and garlic before you kiss, which contain sulfuric chemicals that cause halitosis. Brush your teeth or use a breath mint for extra freshness.

Take care of your lips. French kissing feels best on smooth, healthy lips. Take care of your lips by drinking water to stay hydrated and using chapstick, which will keep your lip skin fresh and healthy.

Take your time. French kissing is a slow-sensual activity that shouldn’t be rushed. While kissing, slow down and take your time to enjoy the moment before rushing on to other sexual activities.

Have fun together. If you take yourself too seriously when trying to French kiss, you may start feeling stressed, anxious, or insecure. Instead, relax and remember that French kissing is all about pleasure and intimacy—have fun with your partner and be willing to laugh if something doesn’t work out.

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