Why Are Good Women Always Attracted to 'Bad Boys'?
|Women Like Bad Boys: Reasons?|
What is A Bad Boy
A bad boy is a man who isn’t afraid to break the rules. This rugged rebel, staring stoically off in the distance in his Aviators atop his Harley, is often seen as sexually desirable in popular media—though he’ll probably break your heart if you date him. A bad boy can also refer to an “excellent specimen of something,” like a car.
Evolutionary biologists would call "bad boys" hypermasculine, explains Michael R. Cunningham, Ph.D., professor and psychologist at the University of Louisville. “These men ooze testosterone, which leads to boldness and is associated with exaggerated sexuality,” he says. They may also be rebellious or emotionally unavailable, says Madeleine A. Fugère, Ph.D., professor of psychology at Eastern Connecticut State University and author, Social Psychology of Attraction and Romantic Relationships.
In the most extreme and negative interpretation, bad guys display qualities of the so-called psychological dark triad, according to relationship researcher and coach Marisa T. Cohen, Ph.D., CPLC. Basically.
Why Good Women Like Bad Boys: Physical Attractiveness?
The bad boy image for decades has been polished by the media, TV shows, and hit movies. The dominance, stubbornness and swagger of these men not only attract women, but also make many other guys think that it is the standard of attraction.
However, what is the real reason a woman is attracted to bad boys, despite the fact that she can be hurt, mentally and physically abused?
From the perspective of common sense psychology, perhaps you will find the answer.
A study titled “Physical Attractiveness and the “Nice Guy Paradox”: Do Nice Guys Really Finish Last?” suggests that physical attractiveness is a crucial factor in terms of desirability for more casual, sexual relationships. But interestingly, niceness is the most salient factor when it comes to a serious relationship.
The bad boys — in most cases — are physically fit and attractive. That’s why women with insecure feelings wish to be around those guys. Now tell me — when you feel insecure, will you choose any skinny, good-grades, goggles guy as your protector? Of course, not.
Psychologist Forrest Talley, Ph.D. says, “They(women) desire having someone in their life who is tough enough to face the world and punch back when necessary,”
More Attraction of Bad Boys
A psychologist at the University of Louisville once shared that bad boys with dominant, disruptive and brash personalities often have higher levels of testosterone. These badboys have dark qualities in their personalities such as narcissism (always giving themselves dominion, putting themselves first, and sometimes being a little antisocial.
In fact, women are more attracted to bad boys because of their genes than their personality. Research shows that women are most attracted to bad boys in the middle of their menstrual cycle, when they are most fertile. Men with masculine traits are often thought to carry better quality genes, so it may be unconsciously attractive to women. This is also completely understandable in biology, as even men tend to look for healthy women because they think they have good fertility.
However, not all women fall in love with bad boys during ovulation. Lots of girls fall in love with bad men at all times in their lives.
The Psychology of Women
Sometimes, a bad boy will attract women who yearn for freedom, rebellion. This trait is often repressed in childhood, as women are socialized to become submissive. If a girl's personality is hidden, she will tend to look for crazy boys as an indirect way of revealing who she is.
Essentially, “We are drawn to qualities in others that we ourselves wish we had,” says sociologist and clinical sexologist Sarah Melancon, Ph.D. “A 'good girl' can admire a bad boy's sense of freedom. Despite the fact that this quality makes him a love partner to stay away from, it can make bad boys all the more attractive.”
On the other hand, some women like bad boys because they love the thrill of the challenge and it creates a rush of dopamine – the excitement associated with expectation and reward. A small percentage of women believe they deserve to be treated badly or do not feel worthy of a healthy relationship due to trauma. A more sad case, is that women who often live in threatened situations often fall in love with muscular, aggressive guys. Sometimes, the violence increases so much that they become victims of violence.
One of the major reasons why women are particularly attracted to bad boys is they show confidence. And women just love self-confidence in men. Bad boys are also sportive, adventurous, and up for something new and risky. Moreover, they don’t care about what other people think of them.
Another interesting fact is the link between dangerous behavior and masculinity is historic as society still thinks aggressiveness and dominance are attributes of a real man.
That’s why when it comes to dating, confident, damn-care, narcissistic bad boys are many steps ahead of the so-called nice guys.
|Studies have shown that women are more attracted to “proud” or “angry” expressions, rather than smiley ones. This might seen strange but it again plays into the intrigue.|
Women Often Believe that They can Change Bad Boys
When entering a relationship with a bad boy, many women believe that their love will fix and change the rebellious guy. In fact, every man can only really do good if he wants to, because letting others influence his behavior will be proof that he is gradually becoming submissive.
In fact, the belief that bad men change is rooted in the nurturing instincts of women, as they tend to believe in the potential of men and help them develop further. This is a problem that scientific studies today have not yet been able to explain.
|Women want to believe that inside every bad boy is a good guy just waiting to get out. All it needs is the right woman, one who he adores so much, his bad boys ways just aren’t worth it anymore. In actuality, this idea that a woman can reform a bad boy very rarely works out. He will change when he wants to change.|
Why do bad boys often choose good women?
A bad boy will accept any woman who creates space for him to be a rebel and socially disobedient, and he will leave them if not met. For example, the rebel will quickly get tired of the woman trying to tie him up and make him obey.
A lot of bad boys have a wild streak and being with them might throw up some adventures. Even the safest of women want to be spontaneous and let loose.
After all, do good guys have a choice?
If you are an elegant, sophisticated and loyal man, do not be disappointed in your attractiveness to women.
Ignoring physical and psychological factors, women often share about their ideal partner as a tolerant, progressive, hardworking and kind man. As women become more and more mature, they will realize that they should be happy instead of living in a toxic relationship. Therefore, good boys are their first choice.
If you love a woman who is constantly in a toxic relationship, find out and come up with ways to help her overcome unresolved psychological issues (insecurity, childhood abuse, etc.) ). Most importantly, always be a good guy in any situation.
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