How To Break The Ice and Start A New Relationship: 6 Quick but Useful Steps
Here are 6 quick but useful steps to break the ice:
1. Admit you're nervous.
Going on a date isn't like meeting people in other situations...there are all sorts of things that tend to make you extra nervous! Admitting that you're nervous on a first date or even just around someone new can be a great icebreaker. They're probably nervous too, so just vocalizing what you're both thinking can really ease the tension.
2. Notice and comment on something about them.
Look at them, really look them over, and notice things about what they're wearing or how they're acting. Notice how they talk. Their accent. Look for if they're wearing something particularly nice, unique, or handmade-looking. Comment on these things that you notice, WikiHow cites.
3. Ask them to ask you something.
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By letting them know that it's okay to talk to you and ask you questions, you can really help break the ice in your budding relationship. Say something like "If you have anything you want to ask me, go ahead." You can even give them more guidance. For example, "If you want to ask about my wooden leg, it's okay. I can talk about it."
4. Be blunt.
There's something to be said for just saying what you're thinking when it comes to the matters of the heart. If you see someone that you'd like to get to know better and then date, you can just tell them that. For some people, it will be a turnoff, but for most (especially the attractive ones) a break from all the games will be a nice breath of fresh air. Say something like, "I'm sorry, I saw you from across the room and I kind of felt like the air got punched out of my lungs. I just had to introduce myself or I'd never forgiven myself."
5. Comment on their name.
If they have a somewhat unusual name (old fashioned, ethnic, anything other than the standard Sarah/John), then comment on and ask them about their name. You can ask if they were named after someone, how their parents chose the name, and if they like their name, etc.
6. Ask them to settle a bet.
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The sneakiest and yet one of the most effective ways to break the ice with someone you don't know yet is to ask them to settle a bet for you. For example, say something like, "My buddy says this shirt makes me look like Bill Cosby during his blue period. What do you think?" or "All my friends say that guys won't go anywhere near girls with short hair. What do you think?"
Best questions to break the ice and get to know someone:
Sometimes, a great precursor to any question is simply to admit that you’re over surface-level conversation and really want to learn what makes this person tick. So, might they mind your asking some untraditional questions, and speaking more authentically, according to Forbes.
Here are some questions by levels that may be helpful for you:
Any upcoming travel plans?
What brought you here?
How do you two know each other?
When you're not working, how do you like to spend your time?
What are you reading currently?
What’s the first concert you attended?
Where do you most hope to visit?
What’s your favourite book?
What's your favourite 90’s show?
What's the best Halloween costume you've ever had?
What's your dream job?
What's your favourite word?
What was your first job?
What's one thing you're excited about that's coming up in 2018?
If you could spend a day in someone else’s shoes, whose would they be? Why?
What's one thing your mother/father taught you that completely changed your life?
What’s been on your mind lately?
What’s the first career you dreamed of having as a kid?
What’s the last text you sent?
What's one of your favourite memories?
What's one thing about you that surprises people?
Who, or what, was your biggest teacher?
What was something you've done that made you feel extreme happiness?
Knowing what you know now, what advice would you give your 18-year-old self?
If you could instantly become an expert in something, what would it be?
What does success mean to you?
What’s the best piece of advice you’ve ever been given?
Where is your happy place?
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